It reads "As you wait for your beautiful wish to come true..." and on the inside, "...know that everyone who loves you is wishing and hoping right along with you."
Thank you to all of you out there who send cards "just because" - for whoever you send them to. The thing is, these are the best cards. They always seem to come at just the right moment. Like for me, right now DH and I are facing the decision of when to try again. It's pretty hard to believe, but our three months are up here soon (the time the docs say to wait after a loss). Plus now that I've gotten through my TAC surgery, the major question that we are both faced with is "So when will you start trying again?" I'm really tired of this question...almost as tired as I was of "How are you doing?" I know that people still mean well, and they are genuinely interested in what our plan is. Thing is, is this any of their business? I have a really hard time answering this question because I really don't know. I mean, I want to as soon as possible...but then I think, am I ready? And what are the deciding factors for if I'm ready? For that matter, is my husband ready? Would he tell me if he weren't ready? Man, my mind just runs with all these questions...
I'm not asking for cards with this post...so please don't send them to me. Truly, then they wouldn't be the "just because" cards. But, do send them to someone else. I task you all with that - you'll make someone's day I'm sure of it. I'll try to do the same too! We all need to set out to do this once a month because it's totally worth it.
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I send out cards all the time, but I sadly rarely get any in return. I know it's not about "receiving" but but you're right, it canmake your day.
I also lost my baby in March and now I am toying with the idea of adoption. I was wondering your opinion on it...just because I think you know what I feel like better than a lot of other people. My doctor also said to wait 3 months (3 months of having a regular period) so I have a few months left, but it seems so long to wait 2 more months and then at least 9 months after that. I know you can adopt a full caucasian baby in 2-3 months. My husband and I can't agree. He thinks that I only want to adopt now because I lost a baby. Honestly I don't think I would have thought of adoption if I didn't lose a baby, but does that make it for the wrong reason? It just seems so hard to wait that long again, then go through the morning sickness and the worrying again. Sorry this is sooo long.
Valerie - I think that the option to adopt is a totally personal one. We looked into that avenue right after loosing Brayden. It's still an option, but I really want to have my own flesh and blood baby. We (DH and I) know that we can do this, it's just a matter of keeping the baby in me the next time. It's scary...terrifying even...and really hard to wait. So, yes I understand, but the decision is totally between you and your DH. You both have to be totally on board for it too - from what I've learned about the adoption process it is very grueling. You are welcome to email me if you want.
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